Posted on November 23rd, 2018 in Betrayal Trauma, Growth, Recovery, Self love

If the now upon us holiday season doesn’t have you jumping for joy … you’re not alone.

Here are some tips & tricks to manage the holidays on your terms.  Take some of that power back and power through with self love and compassion. 

Thriving Tips & Tricks

? Don’t go into debt trying to show people how much you love them.

? Don’t go visit family (or anyone) if it compromises your mental health.

? You don’t have to attend any events that might trigger you.

? Just because you’ve always done it that way (tradition) doesn’t mean it has to stay that way.

? It’s ok to not be ok.

? It’s ok to feel sad & not feel like celebrating.

? It’s ok to feel like celebrating!

? You get to decide what you’re celebrating & how you want to do it.

? It’s ok to say no.

? It’s ok to disappoint others (this one is for the people pleasers ??‍♀️).

? Surround yourself with people you want to spend time with – reach out.

? Utilize those boundary skills.

? Anyone or anything that eats at your self esteem is not worthy of your time or energy.

? Up your self care!  Snuggle in with a good book … if that’s what you’re in to.

“I’ve found the changes I feared would ruin me have always become doorways, and on the other side I have found a more courageous and graceful self.”          – Elizabeth Lesser

Even though life might feel outta control right now, there are some things in our power.

10 Things You Can Control

1️⃣ Your attitude

2️⃣ Your thoughts

3️⃣ Your daily habits

4️⃣ How you treat others

5️⃣ How you spend or invest your money

6️⃣ Whether or not you try again after a setback

7️⃣ The people you surround yourself with

8️⃣ Whether you practice gratitude

9️⃣ Your physical wellness

? Whether or not you ask for help

 

You’ve got this.❤️

 

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