Posted on November 23rd, 2018 in Betrayal Trauma, Growth, Recovery, Self love

If the now upon us holiday season doesnโ€™t have you jumping for joy โ€ฆ youโ€™re not alone.

Here are some tips & tricks to manage the holidays on your terms.ย  Take some of that power back and power through with self love and compassion.ย 

Thriving Tips & Tricks

๐ŸŽ„ Donโ€™t go into debt trying to show people how much you love them.

๐ŸŽ„ Donโ€™t go visit family (or anyone) if it compromises your mental health.

๐ŸŽ„ You donโ€™t have to attend any events that might trigger you.

๐ŸŽ„ Just because youโ€™ve always done it that way (tradition) doesnโ€™t mean it has to stay that way.

๐ŸŽ„ Itโ€™s ok to not be ok.

๐ŸŽ„ Itโ€™s ok to feel sad & not feel like celebrating.

๐ŸŽ„ Itโ€™s ok to feel like celebrating!

๐ŸŽ„ You get to decide what youโ€™re celebrating & how you want to do it.

๐ŸŽ„ Itโ€™s ok to say no.

๐ŸŽ„ Itโ€™s ok to disappoint others (this one is for the people pleasers ๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ).

๐ŸŽ„ Surround yourself with people you want to spend time with – reach out.

๐ŸŽ„ Utilize those boundary skills.

๐ŸŽ„ Anyone or anything that eats at your self esteem is not worthy of your time or energy.

๐ŸŽ„ Up your self care!ย  Snuggle in with a good book โ€ฆ if thatโ€™s what youโ€™re in to.

“I’ve found the changes I feared would ruin me have always become doorways, and on the other side I have found a more courageous and graceful self.” ย  ย  ย  ย  ย – Elizabeth Lesser

Even though life might feel outta control right now, there are some things in our power.

10 Things You Can Control

1๏ธโƒฃ Your attitude

2๏ธโƒฃ Your thoughts

3๏ธโƒฃ Your daily habits

4๏ธโƒฃ How you treat others

5๏ธโƒฃ How you spend or invest your money

6๏ธโƒฃ Whether or not you try again after a setback

7๏ธโƒฃ The people you surround yourself with

8๏ธโƒฃ Whether you practice gratitude

9๏ธโƒฃ Your physical wellness

๐Ÿ”Ÿ Whether or not you ask for help

 

Youโ€™ve got this.โค๏ธ

 

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